There is a common joke among men (usually married men) that at the time of thier birthday they should get their once a year "hummer" from their wife. Every year, my wife treats me to nice dinner, gets my favourite beer, maybe invites some friends over etc. I do appreciate the effort she goes through, but because getting a "bj" (which I qualify as achieving an orgasm and ejaculation) is not something my wiife is fond of and almost always refrains from (although she has no problem with simple felatio), it would be appreciated exorbitantly more.